Oily Baby Names, Part 1

We welcomed a new family member recently.  Although she was a little early, my stepdaughter had her lovely little rainbow baby (a girl!) last Monday. Needless to say, everyone is over the moon, especially since there were complications and some bleeding early in the pregnancy that made all of us nervous. In honor of my…

Missing Someone I Never Knew

I have to make the Blogger’s Apology.  I am sorry I haven’t posted in a while.  A looooong while.  Mostly, I hit a point in life where I was busy and then I was overwhelmed, and then life really decided to be horrible. In August, my husband and I decided to try for one more…

100 Years Ago: The Rights of a Mother

If you browse through parenting advice and articles today, certain ideas pop up again and again.  Children are disrespectful.  Mothers and fathers are overwhelmed.  Parents feel like they’ve lost themselves in the process of being parents!   This is a new phenomenon, right?  We are assured by our parents and grandparents, and perhaps even by…

Can You Give a Little?

I find it too easy to be caught up in my own little bubble based on my location and experiences.  For example, I’ve lived most of my life in a small town of some sort.  Some towns have been smaller than others, but none of them were really big enough to be cities.  When I…

When Present Is All You Can Be

We spent hours in the emergency room of our little hospital a few nights ago.  My grown daughter’s new pregnancy was ending.  My child lost her child. There were signs before this.  A pregnancy that should have been nine weeks along only showed five weeks of growth on the ultrasound.  There was no heartbeat, just the sac….

What I Want to Tell My Mother-in-Law

Dear Mother-in-Law, According to society at large, you are supposed to be meddling, controlling, bossy, and possibly narcissistic.  Also according to society, I should resent, even hate, you.  I ought to take everything you say as uncharitably as possible.  Many women I know consider me lucky because I have never met you. You died in…