100 Years Ago: Advice for Fathers

Fathers are important.  Despite this, the past few decades have been rife with worries about workaholic fathers, absent fathers, distant fathers, all sorts of needs-improvement fathers!  It  must be a modern phenomenon, right?  Surprisingly, a century ago, mothers and experts were already worried about fathers and their role in the family. A full one hundred…

Essential Oils Improved My Marriage

What’s a marriage without some ups and downs?  Those of us with more than a few years of wedded bliss know that even happy marriages have their own challenges.  We’ve been through depression, anxiety attacks, a near-fatal birth, and a rebellious teen.  No, life has not always been smooth sailing.  I am happy to say…

10 Foods I NEVER Buy Anymore

For most of my adult life, three questions determined my diet: is it easy, is it cheap, and is it low-fat.  Cheap, easy and low-fat foods put most of our eating focus on pasta, rice, beans, and potatoes, and the super cheap chicken quarters from Sam’s Club ($0.29/lb at the time).  I’d skin and separate…

When Present Is All You Can Be

We spent hours in the emergency room of our little hospital a few nights ago.  My grown daughter’s new pregnancy was ending.  My child lost her child. There were signs before this.  A pregnancy that should have been nine weeks along only showed five weeks of growth on the ultrasound.  There was no heartbeat, just the sac….

5 Reasons NOT to Use Essential Oils

Essential oils are are the geek-gone-chic of the health community.  They’re moving out of the hippie tent and into normal, average homes across the country, if not the globe.  Even celebrities and mainstream magazines are talking about essential oils.  Are these oils for you, though?  Before you jump on the oily bandwagon, you better check…

What I Want to Tell My Mother-in-Law

Dear Mother-in-Law, According to society at large, you are supposed to be meddling, controlling, bossy, and possibly narcissistic.  Also according to society, I should resent, even hate, you.  I ought to take everything you say as uncharitably as possible.  Many women I know consider me lucky because I have never met you. You died in…

100 Years Ago: Mommy’s Medicine Cabinet

Last time I visited my grandmother, who is in her 90’s, she passed an old family book on to me, a copy of The Child Welfare Manual from 1915.  It had been given to my grandmother’s mother–my great-grandma–by her mother-in-law (my great-great-grandma).  At the time, it was the most up-to-date, cutting edge, in-vogue advice for…

If a Baby Gave Advice to Babies

As I tried to fall asleep around midnight a few nights ago, Little Bird, my baby, woke up and decided she had something on her mind. LB: Mom! Mom! You know how I’m the one who always gets to go grocery shopping with you? Me: Uh-huh.  Sleep. LB: I love the grocery store.  Everyone there…